The Real Enemy

By Dominick Quartuccio

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Your enemy isn’t pain.

The real enemy is when you don’t feel much of anything at all.

As a speaker, trainer and coach to high-performing big shots like you, I often find myself face-to-face with highly successful people who can’t seem to figure out why they are increasingly restless in the lives they’ve created for themselves.

On the one hand, you may genuinely enjoy the work you do, you’re compensated handsomely, hold an esteemed position in your work and community, and love/are loved by those around you.

Yet on the other hand you’re simply less interested in the life you’ve created for yourself. What once excited you, doesn’t as much anymore. Your highs aren’t all that high, your lows aren’t all that low. And you don’t know why.

Other than the occasional frustration or fleeting moment of happiness, you can’t escape the feeling that you’re not feeling much at all.

Yet you still want to protect the life you have.
And life isn’t painful enough yet to change.

So you remain…drifting into a future of More of the Same.


This word keeps coming up over and over again when I’m with high performers: “Trapped.”

Sometimes it’s spoken explicitly. Other times, it’s lurking back there behind a façade of achievement, a quiet desperation that something is not quite right, you just don’t know what.

There’s a growing inner restlessness, the source of which eludes (and confounds) you. After all, you have so many reasons to be grateful, why would you ever feel discontent? Unsatisfied? Bored? Stuck? Or fearful?

Despite your resistance, these unspoken feelings persist.

‘Trapped’ is when you feel like you are living into a future of More of the Same.




It’s a death sentence for someone like you. Nothing will extinguish your fire, your drive, or your ambition faster than the idea of living into a predictable, uninspiring future.

The Most Common Fantasy

Predictable, uninspiring futures are often the byproduct of a life lived in a perpetual state of busyness.

Life is moving so quickly that you don’t have a moment to catch your breath.

Your work is never done. You finish 1 thing only to have 20 other things waiting for you. Your inbox taunts you with that red notification label of mounting unread messages. You’ve heard of “inbox zero” but know it’s really just a fairy tale.

Your responsibilities at home are never done. There’s always someone else’s needs to take care of. A broken thing to fix. An errand to run. A to-do list that never seems to shrink.

After emptying your tank on everyone else, all you want to do is collapse into a couch and disappear into a stream of Netflix.

I can’t tell you how many of my clients have opened up to me in a moment of candor to reveal the same fantasy:

“I wish I could just go live on an island somewhere that no one wants or needs anything from me. I can escape. I can finally relax.”

One of my clients said he was ready to trade places with Tom Hanks’ character in Castaway. All he wanted was to Go to the full article.

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