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My friend Susan recently moved to a new city for a job with a financial services company that focuses on high net worth individuals. She has an MBA in finance and worked for a New York investment house, so she’s familiar with the high-wire competitive intensity of this kind of work. What she didn’t anticipate: She’d be working for a boss who seems to be completely crazy.
I’ve been in consulting for over 25 years, working at the most senior levels with global companies as well as start-ups, so I’ve seen it all when it comes to bosses. But the stories Susan tells make me cringe. Her boss throws things — and throws his people under the proverbial bus. He shows up late and unprepared for important client meetings, and is petulant and retaliatory. He can be irrational, brilliant, sulky, kind and ruthless all at once. But he can also be financially generous, and lets people work fairly independently. He’s the founder and CEO of a thriving business he built from scratch in ten years. Sound familiar? We have a few public officials who may well understand this kind of boss today.
But this boss also makes sure to remind Susan that he “took a chance” hiring her into a role she was not completely qualified for. So she feels both indebted to him and uncertain she would be hired into a similar role somewhere else. Casting this kind of doubt is a classic move for master manipulators. The problem is, it’s placed Susan at a tricky crossroads.
We’ve all heard of or dealt with bosses who seem a little (or very) unhinged, and who make life incredibly difficult for those around them. Sometimes this boss is also the owner / founder / top of the heap, with no oversight or accountability to check their behavior. Or the boss is a rainmaker, so all behavior is excused in the name of revenue. Sometimes, this boss is brilliant at managing upward — and hiding the evidence of behavior that otherwise would not be tolerated. It’s up to the individual working for him, or her, to make the decision to stay or to leave. But here are four key steps to consider with your breakfast every morning, before you head to work. They will help you clarify your reasons, and make a decision if you have to.
Check Your Gut
If you wake up dreading your workday, focus on why, and how long you’ve felt this way. If you spend too many days feeling dread instead of excitement, start counting. Too many days where you’re thinking more about the boss and less about your customers and clients, and it’s probably time to start planning an exit.
Assess Your Optimism
Have you given up hope, or do you still think your boss may change for the better? If you’ve already gone into survival mode — working up / down / around potential encounters — it’s time to make a decision. If you’re convinced it won’t get better, Go to the full article.
Source:: Business 2 Community